From Essence.com – “The Girl’s Best Friend”
We don’t call alcohol “liquid courage” for nothing. The term was typically used to signify the new found physical courage that one gets when passed their limit. However, there’s another courage that creeps in when you’re tipsy – the courage to call, text or email an ex. Either way, there are many perils to drinking and the false courage it breeds.
Last week, one of my sister-friends and I were at a debate party and the drinks were flowing freely from the open bar. Needless to say, the words open and bar in the same sentence rarely lead to anything, but trouble. Towards the end of the night, my sister-friend shared that she’d spoken to a friend of her ex-husband and that, in the friend’s opinion, the ex-husband wanted her back. My sister-friend had been divorced for a little over two years and it was an amicable one. Although she was dating regularly, she hadn’t been fully satisfied with the guys she was seeing.
In her “courageous” state, my sister-friend decided that she would write her ex-husband a text message telling him that she still loved him. “Are you sure you want to do that now, considering you’re a little ‘happy’,” I questioned? She insisted that she was not as ‘happy’ as I thought she was and that she was sure. Everyone in the bar counseled her against doing it and encouraged her to wait until the morning.
Fast forward to the next morning, and I wake up to a text that says, “Why’d you let me do that? I sent [ex-husband] a text telling him I wanted him back.” I started laughing and then, reminded her that I had begged her not to do it. The problem was her ex-husband now had a live-in girlfriend and had moved on from the marriage. True, she would probably always love him, but I don’t think she really wanted him back. They’d divorced over some very fundamental issues and had done so intelligently.
Moreover, my sister-friend and her ex had been down the road of reconciliation before and they both decided that being friends was the best route. Nonetheless, her ex-husband asked to meet her for lunch to discuss the text. She didn’t want to fully admit that it was a drunken text moment and so she obliged. At lunch, the ex-husband was a bit annoyed by the text and made it clear he had no intentions of getting back together. Secretly, my sister-friend was relieved because in her sober state she didn’t want to either. She was saved.
We’ve all done it. Whether it be the old boyfriend who you invite over to the one you ask back in your life we have all sent a text, made a call or written an e-mail after drinking a little too much. It is why I make it a rule not to send any message that is of serious nature after the libations have started flowing. I can’t say I haven’t slipped up, but my friends are good and usually stop me. So, the next time you start reaching for your phone or computer while ‘happy,’ don’t because there are many perils to drunken texting.
What’s your craziest drunk texting story? SOUND OFF!